If you've been following me for a while you know that I shouldered most of the responsibility of caring for my aging parents.
It's not that I didn't have any siblings but rather my sister wasn't interested in participating.
Last week, 35 years of bottled up frustrations came out in a single sentence and it put an end to our relationship.
Without going into all the details, I feel relieved.
35 years ago my sister left the family home without telling anyone and never looked back.
For 35 years I've exhaustively tried to maintain a relationship with her but I finally feel relieved I don't have to try anymore. I'm finally ok with walking away from this relationship and never looking back.
Am I sad it's come to this? Yes, I am and I bet as I get older it might sadden me even more. But when someone doesn't want to engage with you no matter how hard you try, sometimes it's just better to leave well enough alone and move on.
And I guess that's where I have landed. I'm tired of making the effort only to be slapped down at every turn.
The reality is we have a lot going against us:
1. We live far apart.
2. We have almost nothing in common
3. I wouldn't pick her to be my friend given the choice.
4. She's not the person I confide in.
5. We don't see eye to eye on anything.
6. She's toxic and negative.
And probably the biggest issue is I'm not sure I can ever really forgive her for hurting my parents and leaving me alone to care for them.
And so I did what I thought I would never do - I sent her a letter and said my goodbye's to her. I can finally stop pretending we have a relationship when in reality we don't and haven't had one for over 35 years. FROM THE BLOG
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